Be A Friend

"Remember there's no such thing as a small
act of kindness. Every act creates
a ripple with no logical end."
- Scott Adison

What a thought to start out this thanksgiving week with. I know that at thanksgiving many people gather together and eat large meals, and that's awesome. It's important to get together with family and to celebrate what God has done for us, but I think it is just as important to realize that kindness goes a long way and perfectionism isn't kind. (Ok so if you are a friend of mine or a flybaby you will understand where I am coming from and probably where I am going, but for me and for those readers who don't know here goes.) I realized this fact just recently and I am working on it. My perfectionism gets in the way of relationships. When I want to be friends with someone I have to throw away my idea of the perfect friend this I learned a long time ago and I have worked on accepting people the way they are since then, but recently I realized that more important relationships that friendship where being effected because of my perfectionism. my dear mother, sisters, and grandparents. Those people closest and most dear to me can't truly get close to me because of the fear that they won't measure up to my expectations. This brought me to another realization. I expect myself to be perfect as well. Now I know I am not perfect, but this does not stop me from formulating an image of what I would be if I were perfect. So any way all of this has led me to decide to stop expecting myself to be superwoman. Easier said than done I know. I am going to do it all the same. And then I am going to stop trying to make my family members perfect as well. Now how I am going to do this I'm sure I don't have a cut and dried plan,but I think I will start by trying to think about what I am going to say before saying it. The bible instructs us to do this and I have tried before but once again I am going to think before i speak. And when I think I am going to examine how what I say will sound to the person I am saying it to. If it will be helpful but not kind than I will either not say it or find a way of saying it that will be kind and uplifting instead of mean and demeaning. I encourage you all to do so as well. If you try this on thanksgiving day I think you will be surprised how much better the day will go.